WHAT YOU FEEL YOU ATTRACT
The end of 10 years single life
August 2 2013 I meet my wonderful, fantastic and amazing boyfriend, “P”, while staying at Oure Athletic College.
Only 3 months later, we moved in together. “P” lived in an apartment which he sublet, but the lease only ran till November 1st 2013 and it is – as most people probably know – almost impossible to find an apartment that is affordable and in a reasonably condition in Copenhagen.
He was looking all over, he even went to see a couple of places, but he was never the only one who were there looking at the lease and he was never lucky enough to actually get the apartment.
So we decided to try it out. The living together arrangement.
It would either work out or not…
Luckily, it worked out. We have great chemistry and a lot of common values so there wasn’t any trouble.
It didn’t take long before we started talking about “the children thing”.
I think we’d been together about half a year when we stopped using birth control.
But nothing really happened…
Maybe we weren’t trying hard enough.
Of course, I had told “P” about my failed attempt to have a child alone, and about the awful experience, I’d had with the missed abortion too.
Fertility treatments weren’t exactly new to me, hence my trying to become a self-imposed single mother, so I suggested we went ahead and tried fertility treatment.
When it comes to fertility, I’m not that young anymore, so there was no time to waste and it would probably work a little faster if we had help.
I got a lot of good and well-meaning advice from other women, with experiences at becoming a mother late in life, who told me all we had to do was forget about general insemination and go straight to IVF.
We chose not to do that, because my experiences at becoming pregnant were – despite everything – good.
In hindsight, we probably should have gone straight to IVF after all...
1st Insemination – negative
2nd Insemination – negative
3rd Insemination – negative
4th Insemination – negative
5th Insemination – negative
Okay, if I thought that it would be just as easy for me to become pregnant, as it was when I first started “Project self-imposed single mother” in 2010 I had another thing coming.
We went ahead with the IVF.
November 21st 2014 I had my eggs harvested and November 24th I had two fertilized eggs put back up.
The result of 1st IVF November 2014 – negative.
But then something amazing happened...